"Gee, Amy, it's been a minute since you blogged about sex." Yes, yes it has. Thanks for noticing! Shall we dive back in? There’s a verse from the gospels that has been stuck in my head and heart for a long time. It gets so much use in sermons and discussions about sexual morality that… Continue reading Lust: the Sermon on the Mount and a Few Missing Words
Why I stopped going to church… What I’m about to write to you is tough medicine. I’m not saying that as a figure of speech. I got physically ill when the full realization of its truth hit me. For nearly a month, I was sicker than I ever remember being before. That was almost two… Continue reading Polite Morality and Why I Left Church
My quest to find the sweet spot in sex is not the only place I’m doing what I’m doing. In fact, it’s informed by other areas of my life where I’ve experienced the lifechanging power of the presence of God. A lot of what I’m doing for myself (and trying to make transparent to you,… Continue reading Under His Voice: Obedience Beyond the Law
I started out this blog series intending to blog about sex every day for a month. It’s been well over a month, and I haven’t come close to blogging every day. That’s just WAY more writing than I can handle. I’m just going to continue on the topic, posting at random intervals until I get… Continue reading Polyamory & the Pence Rule
For my part, as a church-going Christian who wants to honor God, I've heard over and over until it is second nature in my head that the most important thing about sex is that it happens in marriage. Sermon after sermon, book after book. Gentle approach or hellfire and brimstone, this is what we know… Continue reading Purity Culture (Part 3): You Have Heard That It Was Said
Lies are more subtle than you think. Or at least more subtle than I suspected for a long time. A college friend wrote the forward for a now infamous book about Christian dating and abstinence, I Kissed Dating Goodbye. Sam retracted his forward in this article in 2016. I have a lot of respect and… Continue reading Purity Culture (Part 2): Lie Detector
I haven’t posted anything for a few days because I’ve been having trouble tackling this next topic. I wanted to write this blog series in real time because I’m answering questions for myself as I write. This is as much of an exploration for me as it is for those of you reading it. Thanks… Continue reading Purity Culture (Part 1): Whose Voice?