One reader asked me to write about the male sex drive. Since I’m not male… take this with a very large grain of salt. Perhaps even a block of salt, or an entire salt mine. This is my take based on my non-scientific observations. Because you have to start somewhere… (I'm not even going to… Continue reading Chips, Queso, & Sex Drive
Although eating is a good thing (and obviously necessary), it seems possible that it in some way distracts me from the deep, soul-shaking desires of my heart that I wrote about in my last post in the series. My heart and my body are meant to be unified, in sync, but if my body is… Continue reading Sex & Candy (Part 2): The Desire… Monster?
Lies are more subtle than you think. Or at least more subtle than I suspected for a long time. A college friend wrote the forward for a now infamous book about Christian dating and abstinence, I Kissed Dating Goodbye. Sam retracted his forward in this article in 2016. I have a lot of respect and… Continue reading Purity Culture (Part 2): Lie Detector
God was speaking to me, He was giving me beautiful moments of loving invitation that were far more intimate than anything I’d experienced in my Christian life before. Moments like a hike on the trail, when I told Him how much I loved what he’d done with the trees, and He told me that the… Continue reading Celibacy (Part 3): Going to Pittsburgh
God had started talking to me a little before this point in our story. When I began to give up on my marriage, He started speaking to me in a way I could hear--a voice in my mind, in my dreams. I’m sure there are a lot of you reading this who are immediately skeptical.… Continue reading Celibacy (Part 2): Tearing Down the Wall
Well, I told you yesterday that I’d show off my celibacy cheerleading outfit. I promise it’s out of the closet, hanging nicely on a hook waiting for me to put it on. But first, a celibacy horror story. As I mentioned in my last post, I’ve had two very different experiences with celibacy. The first… Continue reading Celibacy (Part 1): Caging a Starving Animal
There is one area of my sex life where I feel like I’ve had real, unqualified joy and personal growth with God, and that is celibacy. I also spent years wanting sex with my spouse and not getting it. I will tell you up front that choosing celibacy from a place filled with love and… Continue reading Letters from Christ